I thought I was a pretty good Dad with my first child and things were going great. My second child - a boy this time - I was having a really hard time with once he turned two. And, he was starting to have issues acting out in daycare when he never did before (he's usually a giving/caring boy). I kept thinking that he just needs to change and be (insert word here).
It occurred to me that while I may not be loving him enough or the right way. I had read the book for couples many years ago and it worked wonders for my relationship then, so figured what do I have to lose?
I cried reading this book - I realized that trying to discipline him the way I had been was completely wrong and backfiring. That day I resolved to keep his love tank full, and love him the way he wants to be loved.
As I'm sure many others can testify, his behaviour changed almost immediately for the better. All the incidents at school stopped completely and he and I now have a very caring relationship. He follows directions, shares, and we laugh a lot now.
I urge anyone who is having relationship issues with their children - especially us Dad's who are schooled to be stoic - to read this book and learn from it, else suffer with having a child who acts out and doesn't really like you.
In short - I really wish I had read it sooner - would have avoided 6 months of heartache.Get more detail about The Five Love Languages of Children.
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